So, the search becomes more real.

The drafting in my mind of what a personals ad might look like is becoming more than a vision.

It is more than a vision at this point.

It’s a real thing, with hopefully enough personality and description to attract the right person.

The search is for a play partner to add to our fold. To My fold. Someone who will be of service to me, and someone I can use to help train my boy.

I wonder how this will go. I feel as though I am taking tentative steps. My boy and I have not even begun our alone time in the house yet and a part of me feels wary of changing the dynamic. But, on the other hand, this is an occasional play partner I seek, and I know that I am free to see how this goes. I am free to find the exact right candidate, or choose nothing and no one at all if that is the best option.

I think about this a lot.

Let's just pretend she's reading the want ads, shall we? There's no menu here.

Let’s just pretend she’s reading the want ads, shall we? There’s no menu here.

I will share my journey here, and I am thinking that this might be the only way my boy is able to see the progress I am making. My boy is forbidden to go snooping, and he knows this. I trust him fully to be true to his word around this. I am using a public forum (the ad) for a personal need (the training). I do not want him sitting in the front row, watching this all unfold. Rather, I want him on his knees, in a corner, head bent, waiting for his Mistress to make her decision. That is what I want.

Part of me wants to ask others what they would put in an ad if they were in my shoes. What would you say? How would you phrase it?? I am not stuck on what to say, but I am curious on the opinions of others. This blog does not seem to be all that interactive, but occasionally I wish it were. This is one of those times. I smile.

If you were a male submissive, and you found an ad from a woman who was seeking someone like you, what would you want it to say? What would grab your attention? What would be the pleasure buttons in it…..what would make you shy away, perhaps?? I wonder about this. I am confident in my ability to express myself, so I am not faltering in this task. Merely, I am curious. I like knowing how others think sometimes. And when it’s just the two of us in our kinky dynamic, I sometimes want the intellectual connection with others.

This is one of those times.

The ad will be placed, and the future will unfold. I hope my boy is ready for this if the exact right person comes along. He had better be.

Again, I smile.

14 thoughts on “ISO

      • Wow, that really is a great question. Given a choice, I guess I’d like to see that they would have more than just a basic understanding of the the role a submissive would be expected to have while at the same time be relatively inexperienced and eager to please my Mistress in whatever way Mistress desired. Whatever that may be. I’d like them to be gracious and graceful, dutiful and playful. I don’t know yet if I would prefer them to be dominant, submissive or on equal level with me. I think I might prefer that they be female but only if that would be what Mistress would prefer. I would prefer that they have a relatively good education and sophistication and not just some hornet idiot. I would that their limits be the same as ours (no blood, scat, urine, severe pain for the sake of pain). I would expect that they would offer their entire body for access to pleasure by Mistress as she saw fit.

        That’s for now I guess. Thanks again for the wonderful question

      • John, since it appears that you will soon be subject to the very thing we are talking about, what are some of the characteristics you’d want to see in another sub kneeling beside you?

        • I know I don’t want someone to be a doormat submissive. That won’t please her at all. Someone who can laugh with us even if we’re not kneeling and licking and sucking, but perhaps watching the game. Someone who understands loyalty and what it entails. Someone who likes to have fun, as do we. Someone who enjoys good food and can cook some of it on their own. A man who is masculine until he’s made to not be. Someone who understands that there’s a time to follow directions implicitly and sometimes to ignore the directions just because and be ready to suffer those consequences.

          I know I’ll be at the bottom rung of the ladder and I’m okay with that. It’s where I want to be for my Mistress. This person would have to be able to handle a rung above me, to be able to interact well with me and with Mistress, to assume a role where they can respectfully abuse me while following her orders (or, if her orders determine I’m not worthy of respect, adjust accordingly!)

          I’d mention cock size, but really only so that I mention that theirs should not be “too small” – nor, I suppose “too big” – I might be wearing my red hood when I say “just right!” Madame has made it obvious to me that he’ll be fucking me, so I’ll need to be able to take whatever he has. Too big would be scary. Too small would be a disappointment.

          I can think of other characteristics too, both lascivious minded and not. But some of the bigger ones are here.

          • I understand and agree with your points John. I’d prefer that the sub I was kneeling beside was someone that was not a sissy or anything like that, but rather someone that was alpha in their lives until and unless they were told otherwise. Like me.

            As far as the other sub fucking me …. If that was something that made Mistress happy, I’d be down for it.

            I can’t wait to hear how things work out when you find someone to answer the ad. May I ask, have you/she had another involved in your sex before?

          • subhubphx, your question regarding whether or not we have engaged in sexual encounters with others immediately inspired me. The short answer is Yes. My opinion is that there are incredible and unique tales to be told about this, and I am making it a point to blog about those moments in the very near future. We have been able to do things that many only fantasize about. We are fortunate.

            You remind me that a blog can be about looking back as much as it can be about moving forward. Thank you for that.

            More to come. Hope that’s a good teaser! 😋

          • She isn’t likely to reply this weekend, but I do know that she enjoys it. I’m sure she’ll share more, or have me share more, in the near future. ;)

    • Lady Bella,
      Come to Maine and join me for a bottle of wine, and I would be delighted to share with you his abundant training needs. My boy would make a lovely footstool or table for us and we can sit and ponder his opportunities for improvement! We would love to have you!

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