The safety pin

I’m going to wear the safety pin. There have been good reasons posited by others as to why me, as a straight (looking) white guy and certainly part of the privileged class should not. There are valid reasons, most of them I think revolving around “A safety pin is not enough”.

But I’m going to wear it for a couple other reasons.

There are people in my circle of volunteer life that are thrilled that Trump won. They would have no problem closing our volunteer group to gay, lesbian, bi, trans and otherwise non gender binary folks as our group once was. They already know some of my leanings politically, but putting the safety pin on, I hope to make them think, as Gray Miller says in their post on the topic “let them know Oh. He might not be one of us. Maybe it will draw their ire onto me; that’s cool, that’s part of the plan. Maybe it will just make them hesitate for a moment. ” Outside of my volunteer group, I’m happy to let other people see that I might not be whom they expect.

There’s another part too, which I have no read about yet. But putting the safety pin on daily will remind me that yes, I do, in fact, have privilege. People like me are the ones that put this “no talent ass clown” into office and I need to remind myself, daily, that I need to help. Putting the safety pin on reminds me, daily, to go out there and be that person, that right person.

And there’s another reason too. I’m kinky. I’m bi. I’m pretty sure that if I were outed, my job would be safe from my colleagues. But whether my job would be safe from the court of public opinion (the pitchfork carrying ones) is a big question. I’m not worried about the coworkers, but I am worried about management getting pressure from others. It could happen. And that kind of not knowing keeps me on edge. I know, my kink is not my skin color. My bisexuality is not obvious. I don’t wear it every day like so many people do. Racial minorities don’t get a chance to be non-minority. I do. Again, more privilege. I recognize that.

What will I do in circumstances? I don’t know. I know I’m willing to call people out in public. Will I be willing to call people out in private? At thanksgiving? At the holidays? Will I step in to prevent violence? Will I put myself in the crosshairs, figuratively? Literally? These questions I will have to push myself on.

And, well, the general idea of wearing to show people I support them, well, that’s a damn good reason too. I know putting on the pin isn’t enough. Actions are what is needed. And I’ll continue to act better. I know I won’t be perfect, but I can promise better.

8 thoughts on “The safety pin

    • I’m not sure where I’m going out of my way to cause friction.

      The safety pin is not a protest of the president-elect, which I have heard inaccurately reported.

      If the opposing point of view is that gay people are less a person than straight people, then yes, I oppose that.

      If the opposing point of view is that bi people are less a person than straight people, then yes, I oppose that.

      If the opposing point of view is that trans people are less a person than gender normative people, then yes, I oppose that.

      If the opposing point of view is that white people are greater than any other color person, then yes, I oppose that.

      If there’s another opposing opinion I am missing here, please illuminate me and let me know.

      • i’m a straight white guy … and i have none of those
        anti gay points of view… and i don’t know anyone that does..
        i honestly think it is the media that love to stir up trouble..
        they literally make stuff up ..
        kind of like trump being a racist… he was in public life for 45 years and
        not one person ever said he was a racist … he had a huge(lol) tv show
        for many years and no one ever said he was a racist OR ever sexually harassed anyone… but when he goes up against hilary suddenly he’s all those nasty things … i just don’t buy it ..
        but back to the safety pin … so
        the opposing opinion is implied … it suggests that people need a safe space
        because the people on the ”other” side are so mean that it hurts their feelings… seriously … doesn’t that sound just a little bit pathetic ..
        conservatives didn’t like 8 years of obama … but did you see ”safe spaces”
        at what point did it become too much for someone to accept things when it
        doesn’t go their way ?

          • i’m in a tiny bubble ? i’ve lived all over the country ..
            i’m no youngster…. i’ve known a lot of people ..
            no – not a tiny bubble .. it’s just that your indoctrination seems complete.. you don’t take me at my word .. so i must either be lying , stupid or naive….
            see, one of the major differences between the left and right in this country is knowledge of the other side..
            watch any tv show , news station or movie and you’re watching
            entertainment rife with liberalism … it’s embedded into almost everything … even starbucks…google,twitter and Facebook.. but you don’t see it because
            YOU are in a bubble … conservatives see it because we disagree with it .. it stands out to us … to you it just similar thought..
            until you expose yourself to the other side .. and really listen for
            a month or so you’ll never understand how much you’ve been lied to..
            .. not as easy as taking the ”red pill”.. the only way for you to
            understand is to explore – find out what the other side really thinks and believes in … it’s up to you

    • PErhaps you meant the point of view of the people that think the pin is silly or embarrassing… But without much detail it’s hard to tell.

      I’m not going out of my way to be at odds with anyone in that opinion. I’m staying in my same place in support of all the other reasons TO wear the safety pin. I’m not going out of my way to annoy others. They have some valid points to raise, but in the end, I think people are better served in my wearing it, as opposed to not.

      • you believe you are an actual service to people by wearing a pin ?

        ok, here’s a thought experiment you can do whenever you are contemplating something like this … would john wayne or clint eastwood
        do it ? john if you want to be a man you have to act like one..
        some day this country might find itself in a real war . like maybe your
        father or grandfather fought … during WW2 .. WE will need real men
        do defend us against enemies that know the best way to chop off a head.
        our current generation of ”men” that riot in the streets because their feelings are hurt are not going to be any help at all. ..

  1. Check the google, there are resources out there concerning the conflict management skills one is likely to need when wearing the pin. I’m confident your instincts would guide you well, but there are also some interesting pointers that might not have occured to Me in the heat of the moment. Prehaps also practice a little elevator speech so you can respond to innocent inquirers concisely.

    The thoughts and sentiments in this posting make Me even more proud of you than usual.

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